private thoughts between her legs

I’ll never punish my daughter for saying no.

The first time it comes out of her mouth, I’ll smile gleefully. As she repeats “No! No! No!” I’ll laugh, overjoyed. At a young age, she’ll have mastered a wonderful skill. A skill I’m still trying to learn. I know I’ll have to teach her that she has to eat her vegetables, and she has to take a nap. But “No” is not wrong. It is not disobedience.

1. She will know her feelings are valid.
2. She will know that when I no longer guide her, she still has a right to refuse.

The first time a boy pulls her hair after she says no, and the teacher tells her “boys will be boys,” we will go to her together, and explain that my daughter’s body is not a public amenity. That boy isn’t teasing her because he likes her, he is harassing her because it is allowed. I will not reinforce that opinion. If my son can understand that “no means no” so can everyone else’s.

3. She owes no one her silence, her time, or her cooperation.

The first time she tells a teacher, “No, that is wrong,” and proceeds to correct his public school, biased rhetoric, I’ll revel in the fact that she knows her history; that she knows our history. The first time she tells me “No” with the purpose and authority that each adult is entitled, I will stop. I will apologize. I will listen.

4. She is entitled to her feelings and her space. I, even a a parent, have no right to violate them.
5. No one has a right to violate them.

The first time my mother questions why I won’t make her kiss my great aunt at Christmas, I’ll explain that her space isn’t mine to control. That she gains nothing but self doubt when she is forced into unwanted affection. I’ll explain that “no” is a complete sentence. When the rest of my family questions why she is not made to wear a dress to our reunion dinner. I will explain that her expression is her own. It provides no growth to force her into unnecessary and unwanted situation.

6. She is entitled to her expression.

When my daughter leaves my home, and learns that the world is not as open, caring, and supportive as her mother, she will be prepared. She will know that she can return if she wishes, that the real world can wait. She will not want to. She will not need to. I will have prepared her, as much as I can, for a world that will try to push her down at every turn.

7. She is her own person. She is complete as she is.

I will never punish my daughter for saying no. I want “No” to be a familiar friend. I never want her to feel that she cannot say it. She will know how to call on “No” whenever it is needed, or wanted.

Lessons I Will Teach, Because the World Will Not — Y.S. (via poetryinspiredbyyou)

ms-emma-thompson:

emma—thompson:

The Winter Guest (1997)

"I could leave him behind me if I go.When I wake in the morning that’s what I want, that’s all I want. To leave him behind."

5centsapound:

Colin Delfosse: The PKK Amazons - Iraq, 2009

Entrenched in the mountainous region of Qandil in Northern Iraq, women of all ages and social conditions, armed with Kalashnikovs, are fighting for their ideals. The movement of Free Women of Kurdistan (PAJK), born from a disagreement with the PKK (Kurdistan Workers Party), aims to offer an alternative model for Kurdish and Middle Eastern women. The PKK (considered as a terrorist organisation by the US and EU) influence does not decrease: the repression suffered by Kurds in the region have driven many young women to join the ranks of the guerrilla. Now, more than 2,000 female fighters, mostly from Turkey but also Syria, Iran, Iraq, and Europe, are going underground struggling for freedom and rights of Kurdish people.

ramblesanddreams:

Stop Chris Pratt before it’s too late 2k14

Chris Pratt, casually demonstrating his French braiding skills and knowledge of women’s hair needs.

minorinspirations:

"If we only look at gender-role stereotypes in the context of little girls, we’re just seeing half the picture. Here’s a powerful compilation of the unfair labels we project onto boys that inevitably end up hurting us all."

united-nations:

Marking 100 days since the abduction of schoolgirls in Chibok, Nigeria, by Boko Haram terrorists, Ban Ki-moon reiterated his call for their immediate release, while expressing his full support for the worldwide vigils that took place on Wednesday. The UN Special Envoy for Global Education, Gordon Brown, urged the international community to stand in solidarity with the kidnapped schoolgirls and “never to abandon them”, while “reminding people that we are in the midst of a global civil rights struggle”.  Read more here.

united-nations:

Marking 100 days since the abduction of schoolgirls in Chibok, Nigeria, by Boko Haram terrorists, Ban Ki-moon reiterated his call for their immediate release, while expressing his full support for the worldwide vigils that took place on Wednesday.

The UN Special Envoy for Global Education, Gordon Brown, urged the international community to stand in solidarity with the kidnapped schoolgirls and “never to abandon them”, while “reminding people that we are in the midst of a global civil rights struggle”.

Read more here.

jenniferjames:

In low-resource settings across the globe midwives are learning about the critical first hour after birth that can keep more newborns alive through Helping Babies Breathe training. In Yetoban, Ethiopia at Project Mercy midwives take skills labs classes that will utilize the NeoNatalie Newborn educational mannequin. Midwifery training at Project Mercy is through a partnership between Jhpiego, USAID, and Project Mercy that will feed qualified, well-trained midwives throughout southern Ethiopia.
The NeoNatalie Newborn educational mannequin can be filled with water or air and simulates a real newborn that needs to be resuscitated, an intervention that happens often during the first ten minutes of a newborn’s life.

jenniferjames:

In low-resource settings across the globe midwives are learning about the critical first hour after birth that can keep more newborns alive through Helping Babies Breathe training. In Yetoban, Ethiopia at Project Mercy midwives take skills labs classes that will utilize the NeoNatalie Newborn educational mannequin. Midwifery training at Project Mercy is through a partnership between Jhpiego, USAID, and Project Mercy that will feed qualified, well-trained midwives throughout southern Ethiopia.

The NeoNatalie Newborn educational mannequin can be filled with water or air and simulates a real newborn that needs to be resuscitated, an intervention that happens often during the first ten minutes of a newborn’s life.

lisafer:

errandofmercy:

oh my god Emma

*crying massive buckets of mommy feels*

I needed this today. :)

etsyifyourenasty:

Fried Eggs

creekdontrise:

Eowyn was depressed and isolated and she was attracted to Aragorn as an ideal of personal freedom and because he understood her but she couldn’t have him. Did this destroy her as a character?? Did pursuing Aragorn become the sole object of her character arc??? no. Eowyn is not defined by men

She…

united-nations:

Child marriage destroys childhoods, disrupts schooling, and contributes to cycles of poverty. It’s time to end it! On 22 July, UNICEF will co-host an international summit to rally leaders, communities and girls themselves to end these practices everywhere, forever.  Read more here.

united-nations:

Child marriage destroys childhoods, disrupts schooling, and contributes to cycles of poverty.

It’s time to end it!

On 22 July, UNICEF will co-host an international summit to rally leaders, communities and girls themselves to end these practices everywhere, forever.  Read more here.